Last Update August 26th, 2016 There are 4 huge mistakes that nearly all of us make, which causes our Erectile Dysfunction.
While the mistakes that cause both premature ejaculation and ED are similar, this article is mainly about preventing ED.
If we learn to stop making these 4 mistakes, we’ll learn how to control our erections and ED will be a thing of the past.
If we don’t stop making these 4 mistakes, we’ll be at the whim of our problems in bed and be stressed out for the rest of our lives. Being an Endless Man in Bed will only be a dream.
What exactly is Erectile Dysfunction?
Here is the great Wikipedia (I know right) definition of ED:
[quote style=”boxed”]“Erectile dysfunction (ED) is sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis during sexual performance”[/quote]
ED in simple terms, is when we can’t get an erection or keep it hard when we want it to be hard and erect. Which is usually when we masturbate, when we have sex or are turned on.
I’m not saying this to comfort you, but ED effects all men more than once in their lives.
There are times when we are nervous and it’s difficult to get an erection. We could be nervous with a new girlfriend, or just worried about other stuff in our lives.
The problem that happens is when we let these “worries” dictate how our future experiences with sex will be.
Instead of understanding that it’s OK that we couldn’t get hard that one time, we worry about it, and when you worry about something, it’s more likely to happen.
It is a psychological thing, the more time we spend trying to avoid something, our subconscious brain is being told by us to seek it out.
For example, if we say to ourselves please don’t have ED, please don’t be nervous, all our brain “hears” is please have ED or please be nervous.
Our brains don’t hear the “don’t” part that we speak. It just can’t understand that we don’t want something.
The 1st BIGGEST Mistake
Understanding how our brain works plays into the 1st BIGGEST mistake that causes erectile dysfunction.
Anxiety and stress is the number 1 mistake we make that causes ED.
It’s OK to be nervous, but if we pause our emotions at being nervous, it will create anxiety and stress in us.
This anxiety and stress in us will build, and build to the point where we can’t get an erection, we are too stressed out and nervous.
The thing about emotions is that, they are like a surfing wave, they go up and down, so we can catch the surf on our surfboard when the wave is up to when it goes down.
The biggest problem we have with these “waves” of emotion is that we freeze them at the high point, or the low point, where we are nervous or stressed out.
We’re not suppose to freeze them, let them flow naturally and they will go away. The nervousness, the stress, the anxiety, we just need to let them go.
I show you in my 5 deadly mistakes presentations (presentation #4) an exercise how to unfreeze these emotions and let them go.
Another thing I personally do is meditate. Meditation, one of the oldest practices in the world (thousands of years old) is something which helps clear negative emotions from me and allow me to not worry about my performance during sex.
If you use this exercise before sex, you’ll nearly clear all the stress and anxiety you have about your performance in bed.
And when I don’t worry, well, lets just say my girl screams in pleasure.
I use Holosync to meditate daily. I’m getting some amazing results not just in my sex life, but in my business, and relationships.
The 2nd BIGGEST Mistake
Not taking care of our body. Meaning we don’t exercise enough nor do we eat what is good for our bodies.
These are some of the physical causes that cause erectile dysfunction:
- High blood pressure
- High cholesterol
- Heart and vascular disease
- Diabetes
Most of these can easily be handled by a good diet and exercise.
If we don’t take care of our bodies, these problems (and the drugs we take to try to treat them) actually do cause erectile dysfunction.
They disrupt the natural way our bodies are supposed to work so we’re stuck with a body that doesn’t function the way we want.
The best thing we can do is to drink 3+ liters of water a day, eat whole foods such as beans, lentils, vegetables and lean meat, and exercise at least twice a week, preferably weight lifting.
To get into better shape, I would recommend starting with the book The Truth About Abs.
If you take care of your body, your ED problems will likely disappear.
Another benefit of getting into shape is that it can increase the size of your penis. There is some fat around our penis area, or pelvic area, that make our penis literally smaller because the fat pushes over our penis.
The 3rd BIGGEST Mistake
This is something we are usually guilty of doing at least one or two of these things.
Alcohol, drugs (illegal), and medications help cause our ED.
Alcohol itself is a depressant and doesn’t actually turn us on, so having sex before drinking is a bad idea because it helps remove our ability to get an erection and maintain it.
Drugs can have similar effects or worse because we lose our perception and ability to control all our actions.
And third medications for certain things can cause ED, because of the side effects and ingredients inside it. Make sure you read the warning labels on your medications because this may be the root of your erectile dysfunction problems.
The best practice here is to actually stop what we can stop.
This is NOT medical advice and shouldn’t be confused for professional advice either, just my opinion:
If you are taking a medication to save your life, well, keep taking it and definitely talk to a doctor before you stop or start taking any medication.
It will be difficult to stop drugs, and alcohol if you have an addiction, but if you really want to cure your bedroom problems and become endless in bed, it’s best to start taking steps to remove these from your life.
The 4th BIGGEST Mistake
You won’t find many people talking about this 4th biggest mistake that causes ED. Doctors and other studies just don’t think it’s a problem, but it’s like one of the BIGGEST problems that causes ED.
Watching porn is one of the leading causes of ED.
There are so many reasons why it causes ED. Whatever you associate with an erection, orgasm, or ejaculation become a trigger for your body to be aroused.
A trigger is basically something that causes something else. Like if you see a hot woman, it will trigger desire or arousal in you.
If you have trouble getting an erection with your woman WITHOUT porn, than you already know it’s a trigger for you.
If you have trouble getting an erection without thinking about porn, that’s an even worse trigger for you.
There have been many studies that porn warps our brains in bad ways.
Particularly, if we view violent porn, we will need even more violent porn OVER TIME to be turned on and ejaculate.
It conditions our brain sort of like smoking does.
When a person starts smoking, they get a surge of nicotine and it makes them feel more active or a little “high.” Over time the smoker starts needing a cigarette to feel “normal.”
Now, a smoker without a cigarette is LOWER than they were before (in how they feel) they started smoking, and they need to smoke to get to where they were BEFORE smoking.
It’s a vicious cycle and porn does the same thing to our brains.
If you can get rid of porn, it will be one of the best changes you make in your life.
It can take months or years to get rid of it completely (we’ve spent decades conditioning our brains and penis to it) but in the end it will be worth it because a lot of your ED problems will disappear.
What you want to do specifically is associate sex and arousal with your partner. You want to think about her, and how she turns you on, and over time your brain will associate your woman with sex instead of with porn.
If you go out and stop any of these 4 biggest mistakes and follow some of the directions I give you, your erectile dysfunction will likely be cleared in no time.
If you do all 4, your results will be amazing.
Let me know how it goes for you.
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